I see my own troubles mirrored in the struggles that my clients undergo.

I have a small clientele and most of them are working on marriage difficulties.

So many things that people argue about are not that important.

What simple, wonderful advice it was when Bawa Muhaiyaddeen told me to correct my own faults instead of focusing on my wife’s faults. It has worked beautifully for me and for most of my clients. But so many times over the years I have relapsed, forgetting my shortcomings and zeroing in on hers.

Each time I start finding faults in her, the situation gets worse; whenever I tend to the weeding in my own garden, I see good results.

I asked Bawa Muhaiyaddeen “How does one become a good psychologist.”He answered “Love, wisdom, patience, compassion, are among the qualities that are necessary in any work we do. These good qualities are what cure illness, not just medications or injections. Genuine affection eases a person’s mind. instills confidence,and encourages the growth of faith. The most valuable curative is within the heart.”“Doctor, my brother, we can cure only with God’s qualities, God’s love, God’s wisdom and faith in God. Whatever work we do, this is the point. This is what we must learn”.